Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

I am one hundred eleven pages in to this book and something hit me --

"An internal no nullifies an external yes!  God is more concerned with our hearts than He is with our outward compliance." 

In the next chapter, the authors write, "If we say yes to God or anyone when we really mean no, we move into a position of compliance.  And that is the same as lying.  Our lips say yes, but our hearts (and often our half-hearted actions) say no."

This book has been sooo painfully convicting that I actually had to stop reading it for a week -- too absorb what I was reading and too really pray about what the Lord was showing me.