Wednesday, January 4, 2017

Edifying one another and not gossiping

About 16 months ago, God used some wonderful verses to challenge and change me.  

Proverbs 27:17  - "Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man  sharpeneth the countenance of his friend."  

I love this word picture.  Iron is strong.  One piece of iron is capable of sharpening another piece of the same substance.  Do I sharpen others with my words, actions, and presence?

I Thessalonians 5:11 - "Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do."  

I am a recovering "Selective Edifier."  I'll be honest I like edifying some people.  Other people not so much.  God began working in my heart to edify the "hard-to-edify" people.  He, also, asked me to step away from un-edifying situations.  This was the hardest thing I've ever done...but when I asked God for help, He provided a beautiful way.  Honestly if you heard the particular way He worked this out, you too would have a WOW moment.

Proverbs 20:19 - "Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler."  {ESV}  "He that goeth about as a talebearer revealeth secrets; therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips."  {KJV}  

I struggled with the "do not associate" and the "meddle not" because if I am honest, being in the know back then felt nice.  Once I stepped back from the "know," I realized the beautiful gift of not meddling.  It's restful.  It's peaceful.  If someone wants to share something with me, I count their trust as a precious gift.  

Proverbs 11:13 - "A talebearer revealeth secrets; but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth a matter."  {KJV}  "Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered."  {ESV}   

I want my friendships to be a place of trust and rest and peace.  I want friendships where I can ugly cry and share and know that it will stay between us.  

I want to edify and build people up.  
I want trust and compassion.
I want friends who are genuine.
I want non-talebearing friends.
I want a purity in friendship that is a balm.
I want Jesus radiate in and through my friendships.

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