Three things that should go without saying...

I'm not crazy by any stretch of the imagination.  


I am pretty much what-you-see-is-what-you-get sort-of gal.  


I wear my heart on my sleeve.  


If you are sad, I will sit and listen and shed a tear with you.  


If you want to celebrate, I'm always game for celebratory coffee, Red Mango, or another treat of your choosing.  


I love my family, friends, church family and the many acquaintances the Lord has put in my life...which is why what I am about to share with you breaks my heart.


I was recently (and I suppose I should tell you that when I use the word "recently" that this should probably be defined as in the past 12 months or so) have been asked what I am looking for in a nice boy to date.  When I answered these individuals (because it has happened more than once) and gave them the following answer...

1. Saved

2. Growing in the Lord

3. Attends church faithfully

...why is it that these well-meaning individuals were shocked?  And even went on to tell me that they have "nice, unsaved guys" that they want to set me up with.


Shouldn't those three things GO WITHOUT SAYING?  


Shouldn't they just be a given?  It's not like I said...
1. Must have brown hair
2. Must meet this height requirement
3. Must endure chick flick marathons


I expect when some of my "helpful" co-workers want to match me up - I expect them not to understand why I want a husband who is a Christian.  I fully expect it.

On a side note:  It must be fun for married people to play matchmaker, I don't understand their obsession with my love life...or sadly, lack thereof.

If me saying outloud, "He must be saved, growing, and faithful to church" surprises you...please, please don't try to play matchmaker for the girl with curly hair.


I know what it's like to give a piece of your heart to the wrong guy...it hurts and in the end you wind up kicking yourself and vowing to your close girly peeps, "Don't ever, EVER let me do that again!!!  Please host an intervention!!!  Lock me up!  Whatever it takes!!!"


Honestly.  I just don't get it.  Do you think that I am sooo desperate that I would throw away God's Word (not to mention... all the wonderful messages from Pastor B about waiting on God's timing) to become a statistic or at best in a sad, lonely marriage?  NO!  I don't want a relationship unless the Lord clearly directs and brings me perfect peace.


I feel badly for you if you think that I should take whatever tall, scruffy boy crosses my path irregardless of his walk with the Lord.  It makes me sad that you don't think that I should wait for God's timing.  Haven't you ever chose your own way only to fall flat on your face?  I have.  It hurts and it must break God's heart when we don't do what Proverbs 3:5-6 say...Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own understanding; in all thy ways, acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths.


Trusting in God is also trusting in HIS timing.

P.S. I absolutely love the super-cute, girly, red high heels on the soapbox.  Aren't they fabulous?