I would like to make a
formal request of church retreat planners.
If your retreat is going to speak only to married women / men, please
put a disclaimer on your retreat brochure.
This way singles (whether divorced, widowed or single because they found
Mr. / Miss Right-for-them) will know what they are walking into.
Since my disclaimer
request will probably be taken with a grain of salt, I would ask for your forgiveness
when pre-retreat, I inquire about the speaker’s audience. And should I decide to attend another
retreat, mark it down that I will inquire.
Asking me to sing a song
about giving my hopes & dreams to Jesus (leaving them at His beautiful
feet) and then spending the next 45ish minutes speaking from Titus 2 to married
women about how to love on their husbands and use grace & discipleship to
win them Jesus tramples on all the encouragement retreat in and of itself
offers the single person.
As I listened to the last
session about discipleship and woe-ing your unsaved husband to the Lord, it
made me see with fresh eyes that we have almost “glamorized” the verses that
talk about how a woman’s quiet spirit and sweet testimony can win their unsaved
spouse to the Lord. Yes, the Bible says
that…but when you glamorize this truth, do you know what it speaks to my single
heart? It makes me almost believe a lie
that well, he’s nice but not fully saved (it’s either saved or lost…there’s no “not
fully saved”) so maybe I should marry him so I can win him to Jesus.
I can see how girls (and
let’s be honest – guys too) can fall for this.
All I ask is for the
disclaimer. If you are going to talk to
marrieds, please just put a little note on the brochure.
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